Saturday, June 28, 2008

Who does she look like?

The kiddos and I were swimming at the pool today. We ran into one of the families from N's soccer team. The mom and I have become casual friends. We enjoy visiting and run into each other from time to time at the park, etc. We have alot of common views on faith and parenting. So...as we are sitting on the side of the pool watching the kids play, she says, "Does L favor a grandmother or aunt? because she really doesn't look like either Lance or you." I smiled and paused and then said, "Who do you think N looks like?" Amy thought he looked like both of us and then I told her that we had adopted both of them at birth. She immediately gave me a high 5 - funny! and then said, well, N has the same coloring as you and Lance.



She is right and I have to say very perceptive. Most folks who have entered our life in the last 3 years and didn't walk thru the adoption journey with us always comment on how much our kids look like us! We just smile and say thank you. But, Amy obviously paid closer attention. And the reason for the high-5? She was adopted at birth as well. We had an interesting discussion sitting on the side of the pool. She had a closed adoption that was opened as an adult. She discovered her birthmom was an alcoholic and that she had a younger half-sister. Those discoveries were difficult for her, but she was glad she had the answers to her questions. Adoption is a journey and it's one that lasts a lifetime.

6 comments:

Jenn Greeley said...

I think they do favor either of you. Be it coloring or certain features. Now this could be something that I've looked for, but I don't think its a coincidence.

QuiteContrary said...

Who ever they favor, they sure are cute!

Becky said...

Neat conversation!
We hear it a lot too, how our kids look like us. Many who know they were adopted think they favor us, Jman more so me.
Cute pic of those two!!!

Anonymous said...

It will continue. My non-adopted sister and I love to laugh about those comments. A friend once told me that it wasn’t the looks that made us alike, it was the mannerisms. Maybe, but is still fun to smile and know that people say those things without really taking a look.
Tracy

Ladybuggin' said...

Wow! What a story. Cute kids by the way.

Nabeela said...

Lovely Kiddos!!